Let Them Eat Dirt

Is there anything more endearing than a boy playing in the dirt? Before I had boys I would have said, “Yes, lots of things.” But now I have two snips and snails and puppy dogs’ tails and I am in Heaven.

I am amazed how soon the fascination begins- as soon as my baby began crawling, he sped to the nearest potted plant to do some digging.

As much as I want to discourage this and reach for the hand sanitizer, I can think of at least three good reasons to let them play in the dirt- and maybe even eat a little of it too.
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“Do Chocolate Lovers Have Sweeter Babies?” by Jena Pincott

For more than one reason, I was overcome with excitement when I saw the title of Jena Pincott’s latest book, Do Chocolate Lovers Have Sweeter Babies?: The Surprising Science of Pregnancy.

This book was written for me. And if you love little known facts and interesting information about everything from how what we eat influences our child’s gender to the effect Mozart has on the baby, this book is for you, too.

There are so many factoids I’ve spouted off over the years  from things I’ve read in books and magazines and conversations I’ve had with doctors and midwives. Little gems such as, “it’s been proven if you eat chocolate while you’re pregnant, you will have a child with a sweeter disposition” and, “studies show that if you consume breakfast with a higher fat content you’re more likely to have a boy.”

I’ve read the studies and love to relay the facts, but I never knew the “why” of many of these tidbits.

Pincott compiles the information and fleshes them out in great detail. She explains the “surprising science” with humor and wit as she weaves in her personal pregnancy story.

In this book some of questions answered are:

  • Why are our pregnant dreams more vivid?
  • Is a little tipple really so terrible?
  • How are all sons are mama’s boys?
  • Will exercise strengthen baby’s mind?
  • What happens in the golden hour after birth?
  • Do we really forget the pain?
  • Are breast-fed babies really brainier?

and of course:

  • Do chocolate lover’s have sweeter babies?

I can’t remember the last time I enjoyed reading a pregnancy book as much as I enjoyed this one.

 

 

 

 

eMeals Review

Today I had 4 people in the grocery store admire my organization. This is not something I hear very often, but I suppose if you saw the list I was walking around with today, you’d have thought the same thing.

As important as eating well has always been to our family, I have never had a very good meal plan. Every week usually consists of 4 or 5 trips to our local natural foods store, one trip to the farmers market, a delivery from our CSA, and lots of inevitable last minute trips for a last minute ingredient. That worked fine for us as a couple, and then it was still ok when we had one child, though it really wasn’t very cost effective and prompted lots of repeat meals and take-out. I know how valuable variety is, and how unhealthy restaurant food can be, so this was obviously not the ideal situation. Throw in having another baby, and it was clear we needed a new strategy.

First I tried to do a monthly plan.That proved to be too overwhelming. Then I tried to make every night of the week a different theme, so I could make a plan around that. Didn’t work. I couldn’t remember what night I had designated what theme and was always confused.

Then I came across eMeals– “a simple system with easy meals based on delicious recipes and a consistent grocery budget.” When I saw I had to pay for the service, I almost just closed the website to look for something else. But then on the sidebar I saw they had a specific plan for Whole Foods. I looked at the sample, and realized this was for me.

Each week’s plan consists of two pages- one is the menu, ingredients, and recipes (all on one page!), and the other is the grocery list. The first time I did my “big shop” the size of my list felt daunting. I followed it completely, and it took me about an hour. I piled in the produce and asked the butcher for things I had never purchased. I got home and unpacked my loot.

Organic Meal Plan

Finding places in the pantry and refrigerator for all of those groceries was challenging, but after that, life seemed calmer around here. The recipes are straight forward, quick and easy to follow, and all have been tasty. Something as little as having a meal plan has taken a big burden off of my shoulders that I didn’t even realize I was carrying.

Every day I look forward to what I’ll be cooking that night (I suppose the old “it’s four o’clock- what do we feel like for dinner?” routine was a little stressful), and it’s been fun anticipating the new week’s menu.

I asked my husband how he felt about eMeals, and his response? “I’m just worried it’s going to stop.”

Don’t worry, honey. It won’t stop anytime soon. We are four weeks in, and with practice I have streamlined my shopping trip and realized how easy it is to make a few tweaks based on ingredients I already have or need to use. I’ve even purchased a few items in bulk- such as organic diced tomatoes and chicken broth.

One huge advantage of the food on the eMeals plan is how basic it is. This means less time in the kitchen and more time visiting with my family at the dinner table. With meals like turkey patty melts, chicken enchiladas and black bean soup, there is something for everyone. There are sophisticated dishes too-like the bacon wrapped pork tenderloin I made last week. But it was surprisingly easy to make and super quick!

And perhaps the true test of the usefulness of eMeals is whether or not the kids will like it. Score! My three year old son has eaten and enjoyed every meal we have had. I’ve left out the jalapeños and chili powder of some things to make sure he could eat them.

If you decide to sign up, reorganize the menu to make sure you eat things that will go bad the fastest (i.e. for the last few weeks “french bread” has been on day 7…I’ve had to use the baguette I bought 6 days earlier as bread crumbs!)

eMeals has been great for our family. They offer plans for many specific stores and also specialty diets such as gluten free, vegetarian, portion control and natural & organic. I’m hooked. Give it a try and let me know what you think!

Raising Good Listeners

My baby is 7 month old.

When my 3 year old was 7 months, here are all of the toys he had:

organic baby toys

I made sure he was not overstimulated,  wouldn’t let him touch anything plastic, and battery operated was totally out of the question. We spent countless hours on his play mat singing songs, reading books, and playing with his few toys.

Time with my current 7 month old is much different. He spends most of his time exploring  anything and everything he can, testing his limits, crawling around, pulling up, cruising, eating paper, chewing on books, and chasing his older brother.

And really, he would be happiest if he could jump on one of these and ride off into the sunset:

organic baby toys

There is no way I could photograph all the toys he has access to- not a big enough camera lens exists.We are overflowing with books, cars, puzzles, games, blocks, legos, paints, coloring books, playdough, bubbles, crafts, trains, traintracks, racetracks and balls.

So I spend much if my day pondering how this difference in their early playtime experiences will affect each of them individually.

Then there is the issue of the tube. Even with all of the toys at my 3 year old’s fingertips, if given the choice all day, everyday would be a tv watching marathon.

Some days I just decide to give up and stop trying to swim upstream by limiting television and computer games and I’ve even considered putting a Classical Baby DVD on to see if it interests my baby.  It’s usually during the hour before dinner when I have already dosed myself with guilt, feeling as if I have neglected one child, or both. (Do I make dinner, or play with my kids?)

But something always catches my eye at just the right moment and I am reminded of why we have chosen to parent the way we have.

This week it was a list written by Janet Lansbury called 10 Secrets To Raising Good Listeners. I appreciated all of the tips, but the one that resonated with me the most was #10:

“Be aware that screens are a listening turn-off.

I list this last, but it’s definitely not least. In fact, if the inability to listen well is an increasing concern, my hunch is that the increased use of screens is to blame. The visuals in movies, TV and video games are overwhelmingly engaging. Our child doesn’t really listen because he doesn’t need to, and the inferior language models usually offered aren’t worth hearing anyway. Screen time, even if it’s “educational,” can train children not to listen.

In a section about phonics in her fascinating book, Endangered Minds – Why Children Don’t Think And What We Can Do About It, brain researcher Dr Jane Healy notes, ‘These auditory systems are in a period of critical development during the very preschool years when so many youngsters are watching the tube. Researchers agree that when given both visual displays and dialogue, children attend to and remember the visual, not the “talk.” (Even for most adults, listening can’t compete with looking if the brain is given the chance to do both at the same time.) Yet, if auditory processing skills aren’t embedded in the brain during the critical early years, it is much harder, if it is even possible to insert them later.'”

So we press on-  course correcting a little each day, and continually reminding ourselves that it’s all about balance.

PS- Mom, I know, I know. (My mom loves to remind me how much Sesame Street I watched when I was little. But it was Sesame Street and it was 30+ years ago. That was TV actually worth watching!)

 

 

Mother’s Intuition vs. “the Experts”

When it’s time to start feeding baby solids, why does it seems so confusing?

From the minute my baby started acting interested in food, my intuition led me to give him small bites of food off of my plate- anything that could be mashed easily with gums. If he doesn’t have the teeth to thoroughly chew the food, his digestive system probably isn’t ready for it. So I won’t be grinding any chicken or beef any time soon.

There are so many different schools of thought on the subject of baby’s first solids…from baby-led weaning to steaming, pureeing and freezing, to exclusive breast feeding for the entire first year.

Then there are those moms who just do what comes naturally. I had a conversation with a mom seated at a table next to me in a restaurant the other night who had the same age baby. She watched as I gave him sips of water through my straw. I was certain she was thinking- “look at her! I cant beleve shes letting her baby drink water straight from the tap. Doesn’t she know babies should only have water that has been boiled and cooled?” So I explained that my son was teething and this was the only thing that would please him at the moment.

Then I asked her if she had introduced solids yet to her baby (she was not quite 6 months yet). She looked at me with the most puzzled look, and asked what I meant. I asked if she was feeding her any foods yet and she said- “oh yes. She loves apples and pears and anything cold, and I also I’ve her lots of breads.”

Oh, you mean like hard bread for her to gum while he’s teething?

“No, like bread from the bread basket at restaurants.”

But of course. Here I am taught to not introduce wheat until at least 9 months and only whole wheat at that point to lessen the risk of gluten allergy, and there her baby is, happy as a clam while she eats her bread. And her mom is probably way more relaxed in all areas of life. And to think I thought she was questioning my allowance of tap water sipping!

I tend to over think things (really?), and our current baby/child rearing culture has done a very good job of encouraging us to rely on our instincts less and “the experts” more.